A little while back, local blogger Middle Aged Woman Blogging (MAWB) was chastised by another local blogger (the infamous kcdad) for saying "my heart goes out" to the families...
I have been thinking about the strength of that statement ever since, trying to understand why such a simple statement made kcdad feel the need to berate MAWB. I don't understand it and I'm fine with that.
Last night I was watching the mother who lost her 17 year old daughter over the weekend; as she sat there saying this child was "the light of my life", a tear rolled own my face, my hand went up to my heart and for that brief moment - I felt her pain. As I watched the families of the people shot and killed at Fort Hood, my throat started to constrict, a tear welled up in my eye and my hand instinctively went up to my heart - I briefly felt their pain.
My girls laugh at me when they see me watching a news report and be moved to tears. I used to try and hide it, but I don't anymore. I care about my fellow human beings and I want my children to know that empathy is okay - it makes one human.
EMPATHY - the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.
As I look at MAWB's blog today, she is struggling with the loss of a family friend. I read her post; I looked at the picture of the young man; I thought of his mother; my throat started to constrict and a tear welled up in my eye. I thought of my children; I thought of the mother and friends who are struggling with the loss of their loved one; and for a brief moment, my heart felt heavy and I just wanted to say...
I empathize with what you are going through ... my heart goes out to you.